You are not for everyone
Accepting that everyone is not for you really matters when it comes to living a full and joyful life. Hold, carry, understand this truth and allow it to inform how you see yourself and the people and world around you.
If we’re going to grow, protect and nourish loving fulfilling relationships then this truth – that you are not for everyone and everyone is not for you – is really important.
I love clothes shopping. Maybe you do too. Sometimes things look nice from a distance, so we get a little closer. We look at the colours, the texture and quality of the material, the size and wonder about its relevance and how it will add positively to our lives. We might try it on, buy it, enjoy it for a season or for many years.
Sometimes we get a little closer and then just walk on by accepting that it’s just not quite right. You know, it’s not our style. There’s nothing particularly wrong with it, it’s just not your thing. It’s still beautiful, colourful, vibrant and holding its own and eventually someone will come long and maybe, eventually, fall in love with it. The item doesn’t change to get you to like it. It simply stands proud and it is what it is.
It’s the same in life and life is better when we get comfortable with this reality. We’re all trying out experiences, clothing, friends, lovers in order to find out what we want and what suits us – it’s entirely natural. It’s just part of life and it’s how we learn about and discover ourselves and those around us.
Enjoying the journey in all areas of life without attachment and judgement about ourselves or other people. Life is fluid and we are always presented with the opportunity to grow, evolve and discover. That’s the same for other people too. You are not for everyone and everyone is not for you.
My top tips for bringing this to life:
1. Seek to be and not to fit. Only then will you attract what you really need and desire. Seek clear self-expression above everything. Resist attachments to any process or result.
2. Know your boundaries - the areas which merit a “Handle with Care” label and then enjoy the exploration, knowing you are safe and can manage discomfort or conflict more easily, don’t hurt or get hurt unnecessarily. Clothes manufacturers might put it like this - “wash with similar colours or otherwise you risk fading.”
3. Reframe rejection towards exploration.
4. Discover, explore, celebrate and share your unique style or story. Not everyone will want to buy it and that’s more than OK. You’re not “one size fits all” and you can “try before you buy”.
5. Place yourself in places where you are more likely to experience something great. Why shop in a place where you know never has anything you like?
6. This is how we create a richer, fuller, more meaningful life full of satisfaction and rich selection of choices.